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Keep the iPhones Down and the Moment Yours We have all seen the photos. The bride walks down the aisle… and 40 arms shoot up holding phones. Your professional photographer captures the back of an iPad instead of your dad’s face. That’s why “unplugged ceremonies” are trending. But how do you ask 150 guests to put phones away without sounding like the phone police? Here’s how to go unplugged — nicely, effectively, and without eye rolls — from a Rochester officiant who’s seen wh

Spoiler: No. But let's talk about what feels right for YOU. If you’ve started wedding planning, you’ve probably seen it everywhere: “Make it personal! Write your own vows!” Suddenly you’re having panic sweats because... what if you’re not a poet? What if you cry? What if you freeze up? Take a deep breath. I’m Shauna with ROC the Knot Ceremonies, and I’m here to tell you the truth: You do NOT have to write your own vows to have a meaningful, beautiful ceremony. 1. What’s actua

Pros, Cons, and Legal Must-Knows Can your best friend marry you? Short answer: Yes, in New York State, a friend can legally officiate your wedding. Longer answer: There are a few potential hoops, and a few reasons to think it through. If you’re considering it, here’s your no-stress breakdown of what’s legal, what’s tricky, and how to make it work — whether your friend does it solo or I’m enlisted as your backup. First: Is It Legal in New York? Yes — with a couple big caveats.

Backup Plans for Outdoor Ceremonies in & Around Rochester, NY Let’s be real: we Rochesterians plan weddings in a city where it can be 70° and sunny at 2pm and hailing just fifteen minutes later. If you’re dreaming of saying “I do” at Highland Park, on the shore of Lake Ontario, or under the trees at Mendon Ponds Park, you need a Plan B that feels just as magical as Plan A. After being involved with many ceremonies, here’s my no-panic guide to rainout plans that actually work.

Plus some examples that don't suck! Let’s be honest: “to have and to hold” is beautiful, but it’s also been said 10 million times. Writing your own vows lets you say what actually matters to your special person. But staring at a blank page? Terrifying. Here’s how to write vows that feel like you — not like a Hallmark movie. DO: Keep It Real 1. Write the way you talk. If you don’t say “thou” in real life, don’t start now. If you joke with each other daily, add a little friendl

Your officiant shapes the entire tone of your wedding ceremony, so choosing the right one matters more than most couples realize. A great officiant personalizes your story, handles logistics and last-minute issues, and ensures your marriage is legal — while the wrong fit can make the moment feel generic or awkward.